Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Ben Patrick Johnson's Got The Answers...

1) How did it feel to be demoted as an on-air correspondent? What were the ramifications of EXTRA's actions? It smarted, of course. And I will never really know the reasons for certain. There were no legal ramifications, but it certainly didn't hurt my career! If anything, it launched me and helped legitimize me in the eyes of many. I have not stopped working since Extra, and that was well over a decade ago. Maybe their demoting me was the biggest favor they could have paid me! 2) Who has been your best and most influential guest on your vlog to date? Why? We're at well over a million views for the show I did with singer and actor Paul Lekakis. It's a testament to the viral power of the internet and You Tube. 3) Were you out and proud during your modeling days? Why/Why Not Well, I still model. I didn't really have "modeling days" -- I've never worked professionally as a model, but I've done it for promotional purposes all my adult life. 4) How do feel about being a gay icon in this day and age? If I am indeed an icon, it's a lot less treacherous than I imagine it must have been for the pioneers of the gay rights movement a few decades ago. 5) Do you feel that people take you less seriously since you've used your body for a good cause? You asked Reichen on one of your shows, now I want to know how YOU really feel... What I've used is my IMAGE. My body is my own. 6) Please give advice to someone in who is struggling with coming out and being their true selves: You may encounter difficulties as a result of coming out -- non-acceptance by some close to you, etc. -- but the joys and rewards of being open and honest in your life will far outweigh the difficulties. This is the case for nearly all of us. Furthermore, the more people who come out and live in the fullness of who they really are, the easier it gets for those who will follow. If you don't do it for yourself, do it for the next generation. 7) What is your take on GLBT marriage? Do you see yourself marrying the man of your dreams? I enthusiastically support LGBT legal equality including the right to marry. When I find the man of my dreams, I will definitely marry him. :-) 8) I want to know (and I'm sure others out there in cyber-land want to know as well...), what's your ideal first date: Quiet dinner, good conversation on the sofa, some hot make-out and the expectation of more on date #2. 9) What are your key elements in being in a relationship? Be 100% honest! Do you mean what attracts me? Or what do I look for in a mate? First and foremost (at the beginning) there has to be a chemical/sexual attraction. That's the glue that will hold things together until a deep love takes over in its place. Then, I need to be made to laugh. He's got to be smart enough to be clever, and humble. He must have a sense of purpose in his life, and be interested in things that extend beyond himself -- a sense of spirituality and a sensitivity to the world in which we live. 10) Are you really 38?! Get out! What do you do to keep looking as ravishing as you do? Please share any "beauty tips" with us! I am definitely 38. If I look good for my age, it may be because I sleep adequately at night, drink plenty of water and no alcohol, eat a clean diet -- sometimes raw vegan, other times just a healthy bodybuilder's regimen, exercise every day, don't use party drugs, engage in regular spiritual practice, and get facials once a week. Beyond that, it's luck and genetics.
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Monday, December 3, 2007

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Goodness Gracious Me: Gay Son

Air - Sexy Boy

Queer as folk music video

Gettin' To Know Stephen Guarino...

You've seen him on "The Big Gay Sketch Show," now get to know the man behind the wacky yet loveable characters he portrays!
1) Where did you get your start with acting? Was it your first career choice? I was a child actor from Orlando Florida doing commercials and Nickelodeon stuff. I spent one tragic and fateful day on the Mickey Mouse Club as well. Once I was suspended from school because I skipped to go on a Sea World commercial audition. In the meeting with the Principal of school I screamed "You dont know what its like to be ME!" I was fierce. The only other career I even barely humoured was being a photographer, but then it put me to sleep. 2) On "The Big Gay Sketch Show," where did you get the ideas to portray memeorable characters such as Ronnie and the Russian dancer? Did you impersonate anyone in particular from your personal life? Great question. Both of those characters were inspired by my boyfriend at the time , the NY-based gorgeous gay Ukranian folk singer Michael Mirlas (yes thats all true). I was working a horrific job in the coat check at Spice Market in NY's Meatpacking District. It was a soul-sucking job that paid out the ass. To keep my heart from petrifying into ice, I would entertain myself by doing a character similiar to Ronnie (At the time Ronnie's name was Dinky, my boyfriend's pet name for me at the time which has nothing to do with my penis size which I assure you is impressive but more to do with the fact that he and I suffered from a severe case of 'baby talk'.). As Ronnie, I would pretend that to find the coat I would have to go through the computer system and take forever with the customer. Michael said I should turn that into a character and give him the catchphrase "Is this it?" and always present a coat that couldn't possibly be the correct one. Then he suggested (after I got the show but before we started) that I do an Svetlana Horkina (gymnast) or Oksana Baueill impression. It didn't quite work out but morphed into Svetlana. I threw that in to my pitch meeting at the very last minute. Thank God! So basically, I am talent-free and owe Michael some residual payment. 3) What're your views on GLBT marriage? You know honestly, I never had a passionate opinion about it sadly because in my insular and man-child existence as an actor whose only responsibility is myself it never effected me. I sometimes considered that I suffer from a cynical view about "true love" (probably to validate my rather extensive sexual practices.) But just recently I have been seeing a guy from Amsterdam and we are really hitting it off. The other day he said "Wouldn't it be nice if we could just marry. Then I could live in America and you could live here and we could actually be together." And for the first time I thought: Oh fuck! I have limitations! Better get on that! That and the 1100 rights denied us by not marrying. But watching Hillary campaign I think well lets get her in and maybe she'll get to it in a decade. But for others time is of the essence. 4) How was it working with "the gay pimp" Johnny McGovern? That dude is a wizard when it comes to getting shit done. Makes me feel lazy. The fact is, he is the nicest guy ever. He makes you feel like you are the only one in the room when he talks to you. A grateful and generous person. 5) What's the best city in the world to fulfill your career related endeavors? Well, my dream was to be in theatre and on Broadway, BUT I sent them a letter and they must not have recieved it or they are just not interested lol. I auditioned for it for ten years with close calls and little results. Maybe my personality was just too contemporary. TV has been much easier (which should be laughable to say) but it has. I fit well into TV and now getting into films. So, I spend half the year in Los Angeles. I still prefer NY artistically, but if I was really dreaming I would figure out a way to live in London. I would kill to be in the London theatre scene and doing a show on BBC. So I could stalk and kill Jennifer Saunders my idol. 6) What's the 411 on your personal life...single? married? taken? any kids? haha Single by choice for last two years, but I could totally get into one now. I need some lovin'. I am a notorious chubby chaser. The word "stocky" is good for me. Tall, tan, blonde, and just out of a pool...not good for me. I also will be spending alot of time on my boyfriend south of the ankles if you know what I mean. 7) Please give advice to anyone struggling with their sexuality in the GLBT community: I suppose it would be the obvious three: 1. That poppers are still Amyll Nitrate and still you will probably suffer from a mild headache. 2. That being gay is just better. Better hours and better pay.3. You can still achieve everything you want regardless of it. Or in my case because of it. 8) So far, what's been your most memorable and personal gig as an actor? I still do a show in NYC called The Nuclear Family. Its a 3-man improvised musical that we have done around the country and was Off Broadway run in 2003. Its my best and funniest work and was created with my long-term comedy partners Jimmy Bennett and John Gregorio. If your in NY you must see it! (thenuclearfamily.net) 9) Are you a party boy or a stay in/order out kinda guy? I think I am cyclical. I go through bouts where I am out every night drinking and having sex or trying to find the sleaziest place in town. But during audition times I will be at home more literally getting the maximum out of my Netflix membership. I am raping that company and all it gets is $17.99! 10) What're some upcoming roles/gigs of yours that we need to keep our eyes peeled for? Well, cross your fingers that I could be in this new PJ Hogan movie (Muriel's Wedding) called "Confessions of a Shopaholic". You just missed me on the cancelled "Wedding Bells" on FOX. On the second season of BGSS you are getting alot more Ron Odyssey (Ronnie) and Sveltana, plus a new character Chaps McFadden who is an extremely disgruntled fairy-tale-reading fairy. Look out for some killer celebrities on the show too! Thanks for watching the show! Support gay programming! *ALL CONTENT IS COPYRIGHT MATERIAL - INTERVIEW CONTUCTED BY GIUSEPPE*

Sunday, November 25, 2007

Dan H: Vlogger & Such...

1) Was coming out difficult for you? How and when did you do it? Coming out was a lot easier for me than most people, probably. I was pretty comfortable with who and what I was...I had come to the conclusion that if someone doesn't want to accept me for that, then that is their loss! The hardest person to come out to was my mother; but her biggest problem with it was that she wasn't going to have any grandkids! But she knew that anyways; I constantly expressed my dislike for children...this just sort of solidified it.
2) Besides "being gay" how do you identify yourself? I'd say Agnostic is another one of my big ones. That search for something higher is constant for me. While I'm pretty convinced that the "God" of the Catholic Church (or any major religion for that matter) just doesn't exist. I think it is a lot simpler than all of that they tell us. I think it's just having a strong relationship with who you are as a person, caring about your surroundings, and being the best person you can be. In a way, I think that is a relationship with a higher power because it shows how we can truly be an amazing species. What a rant that was! I'd also classifty myself as a radical feminist...DOWN WITH GENDER!
3) Give some advice to up and coming GLBT people (kids who are coming out, etc): Go at your own pace...and when you're ready, just be prepared. I would LOVE for everyone to come out, but I understand the limitations and have to respect that. If coming out won't present you with a safe environment, then don't come out. Put yourself first, its okay! Also, if your friends don't accept you because of your sexuality, then it's time to drop them. They couldn't have been that good of friends anyway!

4) How does it feel to have your own vlog site on the net? It feels pretty gosh darn cool!

5) How did that start, btw? Actually, I was bored of typing out all of my blogs on MySpace, so I thought I would be really creative and start to do a Video Blog. I thought I was hot shit and the first to ever do it. False. Oh well. Still pretty cool!

6) Does your Fraternity accept you for who you are? Absolutely!
7) Was coming out to your Fraternity easy or difficult? How so? I've come to the point where I'm not "coming out" anymore. It is just a part of who I am and pretty much everyone knows it. I think I have a strong enough voice around campus that everyone knows by now. Also, being featured in my school newspaper for my YouTube and my videos on being gay and gay rights might have tipped some people off!
8) Whatda think of GLBT marriage? I'm against it! Then again, I'm against straight marriage too! Marriage is a religious term. Religion and Government DO NOT MIX! (but they do far too often) So drop marriage already! Let the churches take care of that, and leave the government the term civil union or what not. If a church wants to discriminate, then so be it. But the government by law shouldn't and can't! So, marriage for some (because that is an entirely different fight within religion) and civil unions for all meaning the same benefits for all!
9) Describe your perfect mate? Oh gosh. First of all, someone who does NOT want to have sex all the time. It just gets annoying. Second of all, someone who is socially conscious. I'm not going to walk through life with my parter and be the only one with my eyes open! Thirdly, no jean shorts...I hate them! Fourth, of course he has to be good looking! If I'm not physically attracted to the boy, then I'm sorry, but it won't work! Fifth, he has to say more then 5 words to my friends and family. Nothing annoys me more then when I bring a boy home and he's quiet. Geez. I'm trying to integrate you here and you're being a stone in a field of beautiful flowers! Finally, he has to be sarcastic and have the humor of an 8th grader, yet still maintain a level of maturity when appropriate. If we all go around with a stick up our asses (noticed the "st" on stick, not "d"!) then.... I'm going to hate you.
10) Where do you see yourself in 10 years? In a big city kicking ass! I've always dreamt of organizing a campaign comparable to some from the 1960's. After Stonewall it seems that we could never seriously get out there en masse and truly kick some butt on an on-going basis. Now is our time! I want to put that together, get us out there, and demand our rights. Not by letters and phone calls, but by sheer force. We make up a good chunk of this population, so lets finally start to DEMAND what we deserve!
CHECK OUT DAN'S VLOG NOW! ... http://www.youtube.com/gdprophetxvii
*ALL CONTENT IS COPYRIGHT MATERIAL - INTERVIEW CONDUCTED BY GIUSEPPE*

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Girl's Gotta Flaunt It! Red Carpet 2007

Two-4-One Blog Combo

"Sleek but Dirty – real dirty…" Valeve spills their guts with a vengeance… They're every punk rocker's wet dream—with an up-to-date retro sound and kick ass attitude, this band shows no mercy and def no signs of slowing down! The band includes: Tiff- vocals Alan- guitar Tim- keys Joe- bass Miles- drums How do you feel about having a pretty decently sized gay following? Tiff: We LOVE our audience. It's a family and a community that seems to grow at each show. We never know what to expect at a show – but the one thing that is consistent is that it's diverse, unpretentious, and there's a real sense of community and love… We want everyone to just be who they are and enjoy everyone else in the room for their individuality, instead of judging them for being different. Frankly - we don't care if you're in a suit or in sparkly pink undies, as long as you're bringing it. (Although lets be honest – the more naked the better ;) ) When asked who the band's 80s influences are, they reply with, "Baby, the list goes on…" Who are your top influences? Tiff says: My main influences are Elvis, Billy Idol, Axl Rose, Bjork, Pet Shop Boys, and Billie Holliday. Miles: Motown, 70's funk, and 80's punk. Tiff: The band has a ton of influences though – we all listen to a lot of different music – but some of our biggest as a group are The Clash, The Sex Pistols, Blondie, Missing Persons, The Cars, Pretenders, Talking Heads. What would you guys like to say to those out there who dare to be different and deny today's stereotypes and expectations? Tim: We think that they are the demise of modern civilization as we know it- and we applaud their efforts. Miles: The only people who are truly innovative are ones who are willing to break the rules and deny stereotypes! Tiff: Stereotypes and expectations are all bullshit illusions created to make us all feel "safe". Dare – be different – be selfish – be how you feel, not how someone says you should feel. Just be honest with yourself at all times b/c right now is the only thing that's real. Are all of you the original members? Tim: No. But we won't tell you who- you have to guess. And every time you guess wrong, we get to whack you in the ass with a studded paddle. I know you perform in the city quite often…What would you like to say about NYC? - Is it truly the city where anything can happen? - What's your craziest city experience? Alan: One of them was our studio-trashing party, when we moved out of our old rehearsal place. We invited people off the street, got extremely wasted, played a show, and then demolished the place. Miles: I saw a guy hit a bike messenger with his Escalade on Wall Street, then get out of the car to talk to the guy he hit and make sure he was okay. After a few minutes of talking, the guy punches the messenger in the face for asking him for his information! Tiff: Oh God…things I can't repeat—some interesting things always happen in the make out room at CIRCUS though…that is always a spectacle! Tim: Being arrested for "falling asleep" on the train…(something suspicious about that one…) In your own words, what kind of style do you have as a band? (both musically and wardrobe wise) Tim: Sleek but dirty- real dirty. Can you give us a round-about schedule of upcoming events? Tiff: We're releasing our EP "Go Go Go!" in Dec/Jan and working on a video right now—Should be hot! We've got shows happening all fall really…Best thing is to get on our mailing list or keep checking valeze.net and myspace for show updates. (www.myspace.com/valeze) Tiffany, your voice is very reminiscent of Gwen Stefani, is that the sound you were looking for? Tiff: No – I try not to think about the sound and just focus on the emotion. I get the comparison sometimes, but it doesn't really bother me anymore b/c my voice has its own agenda and I can't really fight it ;) What do you think of Gwen Stefani as a role model and gay icon? Tiff: She's a sexy bitch – why not? ;) How do you see yourselves being role models for today's youth? Tim: We don't really. For the youth's sake, let's hope they have the same opinion.

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So you landed yourself a serious boyfriend, eh? So, you finally landed the man of your dreams, huh? You spend time together, split your time between each other's apartments AND both of your families have already met! Since you're on the road to success, why not take the next step (a small step but it can make or break the relationship) and double your wardrobe? Here are 4 simple ways in which you and your hubby can share each other's clothes without re-enacting one of the scenes from "The Break-up." : 1- Ask first: Talk about sharing clothes before rummaging through the closet. This will keep communication open from the get-go. 2- Not the same size?: Not a problem! If you are bigger or smaller than your boyfriend and don't exactly fit into each other's clothes, move onto accessories such as watches, shoes, and leather cuffs (and I'm not talking about bedroom toys!) 3- Keep it clean: Once you are finished wearing his blazer, don't throw it on a hanger and leave it for him to get cleaned. Take a stroll down to your local cleaners and pick up the tab. This shows you are grateful and appreciative; he may just do the same for you in the future. 4- R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Respect each other's wardrobe! Once you've worn anything from his printed tee's to seven jeans and put them through the wash, fold them up and put them back into his drawers. -GIUSEPPE

Introducing Rex...

Interview with Rex, former "Real World" casting site member: 1) What's your full name: Rex Allen Cutright 2) Where were you born/currently live: I was born in Lubbock, Texas but I currently live in Malibu, California. 3) Would you rather be in a committed relationship or an open relationship, why or why not? OR would you rather be single? In the future, I'd love to have a committed relationship but as of now I would rather be single; that's only because of my ex-boyfriend. It was a VERY difficult relationship. 4) Have you done any philanthropy as a young and out gay male yet? Would you? What kind would you do? Coming from the most conservative city in the nation, I haven't had too many opportunities to be involved in philanthropy. I'm not too big into pride-type functions just because I feel like gays are made to look like fairies and queens while they throw glitter around. Sorry, but I'm definitely not that kind of gay guy. At the same time, I would like to help teens that grew up in a religious home or even just a home that is not accepting of who they are and maybe go to colleges to speak about Christianity and Homosexuality. 5) Are you 100% out? What have been your struggles so far in life and have they been sexuality related? Well, I am but I'm not. I'm definitely out to everyone back home, but here at Pepperdine, it's hard to be completely out, especially since I am on a "Church of Christ" Scholarship. I definitely don't hide it from people though if they ask, but I usually don't get asked…but yes, I'm out on myspace so I guess technically I am 100% out...haha. My only struggle I can think of is getting my mother to accept me and ultimately someday my partner. She's said before that she'll never do it. Also, I think my relationship with my father is a huge struggle. I feel like I don't even know the guy. 6) Single or taken? Well you caught me in my single stage...haha. I just recently broke it off for good with my Ex 2 days ago. Being single, I think, is a blessing and I'm going to try to live it up to its full potential. Relationships are just too hard. 7) Favourite Real world season? I'm going to be cliché and say New Orleans. I know I know everyone loves New Orleans. I think It's because it was probably the most "real" the "Real World" has ever been. I'd love for the "Real World" to go back to the days of Hawaii and Seattle or even Chicago. 8) Favourite gay cast member from the real world and why? Well I have 2. Is that against the rules? Well I love Chris from Chicago; I just remember thinking he was soo hott and he had that cute shy boy thing going for him. I think I was in 8th grade when that season came out. Plus, I think that he started the whole faux hawk thing. And I have to say it but Davis from Denver. I just think we'd get along so well because we are pretty much the same person. Plus, hes not too bad looking either. I mean, people compare me to him so much sometimes its annoying but I ultimately take it as a compliment. 9) If chosen to be on the real world some day, how would you be different than past gay cast members and do you feel like you'll make a difference? How? Well, they really have had a broad selection of gay cast members so I think it would be hard to separate myself from all of them. But I think the main difference I would bring is that I'm really funny and you can ask any of my friends that I just like to goof off and have fun and not be too serious. Also yes, I am a gay Christian but I am completely comfortable with who I am and I would never cry like a bitch on camera (*cough cough* Davis). I really think he played the Christian thing because he was brutal to the girls and was obsessed with sex. Not too Christ like if you ask me. 10) Gay bashings: Please tell me about Mikey and what's your position on bashings? What can be done to stop them, in your opinion? Well I didn't know Mikey personally, but he was a friend of a friend and apparently he was walking outside of a bar holding hands with another guy and he got jumped by a Mexican guy. The other guy he was with got away, but Mikey was beaten to death with a tire iron and his head was crushed. I'm not surprised because this happened in a Southern atmosphere. That's not to say that I'm not concerned and disgusted. It's sad that this doesn't surprise people. It's just depressing that we can be beaten to death just because of who we choose to love. I don't know if it will ever stop; you can't force people to believe what they don't believe. I just think we should know how to protect ourselves if we ever encounter such things. 11) How do you feel about gays marrying? Does your opinion have to do with your religious background? Can you see yourself being married to the man of your dreams someday? Explain your dream wedding: This is a hard one. I believe that we should be able to marry whoever we want, but I completely understand why conservatives think we shouldn't. I think if you just go before God and say " this is the person I wanna spend the rest of my life with and I promise I will do my best to stay with him and love him and take care of him" (and vice versa) that should be enough. I personally don't need a piece of paper to say I'm married. But I can see that it's open to opinions. But other than that, I'd just move to Boston. Haha...I've never really thought about my wedding. I think that's something that girls do when they go through puberty. I just want it to be small and special. 12) What's your current job/dream job? As of now I work for Pepperdine as an office assistant. I don't like the word secretary...haha. But it's for security so I guess that's more macho. Anywho, my dream job would be to do movies. I've been in acting since I was 5 and it's a huge passion that I have to this day. I'm just so busy all the time I never get to actually go for it. Plus its so cliché in LA, everyone you meet is an actor or a model so no one takes you seriously if you say that you're an actor; But maybe someday. Other than that, I'm studying advertising with a minor in Art. I'd like to be a publicist or work for a huge retail company some day. 13) Tell me a little about your childhood: I grew up in the country. I was a chubby little white trash redneck kid. My parents didn't go to college so we jumped around from living in houses you could see sunlight through the walls, to living with my grandmother. Finally settling down in a 1400 sqf house with 3 bedrooms and 1 bathroom. I never saw myself as poor but I can def see that I was now that I'm older. My parents filed for bankruptcy when I was 7 and it was a hard living. But I was teased a lot because I didn't go through puberty until 9th grade and I didn't have the right clothes. My mother eventually went back to college and she is now a doctor and they have a 3 story Victorian house with a fuckin elevator. Talk about a 180. 14) When did you come out? What caused you to come out and was it a good decision? I came out when I was 16 but I had told my mother before that I thought I was gay, when I was like 6 or 7. She asked me if I wanted therapy and I rejected the idea because I didn't want to look like a freak I guess. I really went though a self hating period because I was so involved in my youth group at church and truly believed I was going to hell. One Sunday I just couldn't take it anymore so when I went home I told my mother everything. I felt so relieved and happy but awkward at the same time. It def came as a surprise to my family. Overall I look back and Im proud I came out at such an early age and that part of my life is over with and I can move on now. 15) Give advice to those still struggling with who they truly are: Look deep within yourself. Separate what you think is a part of you and what you think is something you can change. For example if you feel that deep inside that that's the way you were made and that's the way you are going to feel for the rest of your life, then its probably the way God made you. If you're religious like me I say pray. I know when I prayed about my sexuality, which I did a lot, I always felt reassured about it afterward. Its not gonna be easy to accept yourself and it may take a long time I still doubt myself sometimes. But always remember that love has no face or sex. 16) Describe your style: yuppie, prepster, hipster, etc? Haha POOR…no I'm kidding I kinda like the whole laid back jeans and t shirt look. I'm not into designer clothes.. I like comfortable clothes that I can afford to buy. I guess you could say preppy but I'm kinda getting into the whole beach bum look…idk its always changing. But I will say that I love the hardcore extreme sports tattooed look for potential boy friends ;) haha. 17) Can you write about 100 words about your background to enhance the interview? It would be greatly appreciated! 100 words?! Aghh I feel like I'm in school again…come on, it's summer! ... Well ok, let's see...I was born on June 21st 1988 in Lubbock, Texas. I lived there until I was 18 and then I moved to California for college. I'm a native American Irish Dutch boy. I Have 2 older sisters so I am the baby. I played Football, Basketball, Tennis, Track and I also did Powerlifting in high school. I was the president of the thespians club and I was on the board of directors for the local community theater. I grew up Church of Christ so I still have a hard time adjusting to being an out member of the church.
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Moving In...

So, you're moving in together…Mazel Tov! And you need advice? Well, you've come to the right place. I have lived with three boyfriends before; The first was "our" apartment that we both moved into together. The second was "my" apartment that he moved into and the third was "his" apartment that I moved in to. Out of all these possible scenarios, moving into a place together is the best way to go. Look at this as much as a marriage as you can. Before the new place, you could leave your boyfriend at anytime and anywhere. Now you have a leash; A force that binds you to not only another human being, but a place of co-habitation. This force is known as "the lease." The lease is the real commitment. Prior to the lease, if you and your boy were at a party, someone would inevitably ask you if you think each other is the one. "Sure," you say-"why not?" You have nothing to lose. If he's not the one then "he's" not the one and you go home. But with the lease you're really saying "I give it a year solid, after which our commitment is based on a month to month." I'm all about love and being spontaneous but all I'm saying is protect yourself and know your rights. Have the uncomfortable conversation with him about what should happen if you two do break up. What happens to the house? Who moves out? Who keeps the dog? I'm assuming you'll get a dog because let's face it, that's what gays do. I've been dating guys for over 10 years now; A couple models, a couple older business types, a celebrity, and some "regular Joes." And after all my mistakes, the bottom line is honesty and openness. Talking about how things might end is not unromantic or tainting the idea of moving in, it's the responsible thing to do for both of you. If you truly care about each other and want to protect each other then make sure you're clear on all aspects. All that being said, only invite your rich gay friends to your house warming-the others will bring cheap wine that they'll end up drinking themselves and spilling onto your carpet. -Michael Billy *please note all content is copyright material*

Interview With Reichen: What a sweetheart!

From making some cameo appearances to dating Lance Bass, we've go the 411 on this hottie...check it out: 1) When you were in the miliatry, what was the worst part about keeping your sexuality a secret? In the military, the situation is entirely different than in civilian life. Homophobia is allowed and almost celebrated as a "joke" all around you. Even if you want to come out, the threats are far greater because of your oath of office. You'll be considered a criminal who is subject to disciplinary action, immediately upon admitting your homosexuality. Add this to the woes of family or friend troubles when those important people in our lives don't understand you, or that you were born gay. Also, in the military, it's one of the last situations of discrimination in this country where the ones being discriminated against are actually silenced from speaking up for themselves, only prolonging the problem. This is why it's important for all of us, on the outside, to fight for our brothers and sisters within the ranks. 2) After you were tortured and came out as a gay man, did you finally say to yourself, "I'm free! I can't wait to live my life!"? OR did you regret everything and want to run back into the closet? Neither, really. I wouldn't say I was "tortured". I always found a way to live my "other" life and to be happy about it. It was part of survival and being in the military. Once I left the Air Force, I continuted to live the same way, but never had to deny the fact that I'm gay if I were asked. I didn't find it necessary to tell the world...until the world was told for me by my appearing on television. 3) Who in your life surprised you most with the reaction of knowing that you were gay? For the better or worse. My father was very cool and loving about it and I didn't think telling him would be so easy. "I'm proud of you and love you know matter what!" were the first words from his mouth when I told him. 4) Were you a ladie's man way back in the day, or did you always have a liking toward boys? I wasn't a "ladies man"--ha, but I always had a girlfriend and dated girls. I think I found it necessary to date girls to find "the one" who would actually do it for me. The problem was not the girls I dated at all...they were all beautiful and sweet. The problem was that I was gay! Yes, I always had a crush on this or that guy while growing up. I didn't know then that it was a crush, but now I understand that it most definitely was. 5) You've dated Lance Bass...how was that for you dating someone less experienced in the LGBT community? I mean, the poor guy just came out and was trying to deal...did that affect you at all? The relationship was a negative experience for me in general. There were too many people involved in my life for me to be happy. The book and the message of eradicating "Don't Ask Don't Tell" were overshadowed by the drama of that time and this saddens me. Chapter closed. I'm writing another book now. I'm not aware that my ex was any less experienced in the LGBT community than any other gay person, so I can't really fully answer the question. 6) Describe your perfect mate: Great sense of humor, makes me laugh, loyal, devoted, protects my privacy, good listener, intelligent, educated, ambitious, open-minded, knows what matters and what doesn't, and makes me feel happy. I just described the guy I'm with right now, Ryan. 7) How did your jewelery line for men come to be? I had done some modeling for Udi Behr Jewelers in New York and they had just launched a new line called, "Love and Pride" (www.LoveandPride.com). I met Udi and some others from his company for dinner in L.A. one night a couple years ago. At the end of dinner, the valet pulled my car around and Udi read my license plate at the time that read, "FLYN8KD". He asked me what it meant and I told him the story: that in civilian pilot training, we had a dare to, on our first solo flight in some aircraft, strip down and actually fly naked. So Fly Naked represents a conceptual dare to kind of strip down and to be who you are and to run, or fly, with that! 8) How has being a philanthropist changed your life? Thanks for saying I'm philanthropic. If that's what I am, great, but honestly I have many people around me who ask for my involvement in different charities and projects that help others. I say "yes", and when I actually go to volunteer or speak, or whatever it is that they need me to do, I grow from the experience and then it makes me want to do more. This is similar to when I was a little kid and my parents would walk me in the park and point out a plastic bag on the ground several feet away. They would tell me to go and get it and to throw it into a trash can or to hold onto it until we found a place to throw it away. After putting the first piece of plastic into a trash can, I was ON A MISSION, looking for more plastic bags and candy wrappers to throw away. It felt good to help out! "Leave the world more beautiful than when you found it," my parents would often tell me. 9) Will you continue to do philanthropic work or is it something you've seen and done and want to move on to bigger and better things? Nothing could be bigger or better than helping someone else. As long as I'm able, I will. 10) Please give words of wisdom to those struggling with their sexuality: Just remember that it's not really YOUR problem. It's everyone else's and your letting them make it all about you. When it's safe and practical for you, and when you're ready to understand this fact, come out and remember to be patient with those who don't understand you yet. The more patient you are, the better chance you have of allowing them to see that it's NO BIG DEAL. *ALL CONTENT IS COPYRIGHT MATERIAL - INTERVIEW CONDUCTED BY GIUSEPPE*